Good morning, guys.
Have you ever sat quietly in the morning, enjoying a cup of coffee or hot tea, and then suddenly felt something stirring inside your chest? It’s not a sound, nor is it a flurry of thoughts. But rather, a subtle vibration coming from the very depths of your being. It’s as if there’s a whisper saying, “Hey, there’s something inside you that’s not yet complete.”
That vibration is what we want to explore together in this article. the inner vibration, something pulsing in deep, in the quiet way. Let’s call it the Quite Pulse.
The Quite Pulse is the language of our own soul. It is the echo of everything we’ve ever experienced, everything we’ve inherited from our parents and ancestors, and also everything we dream of “becoming.”
It is a small voice that is often drowned out by the hustle and bustle of the outside world, but it never truly fades away.
In this first column, we’ll discuss a question that often haunts many of us:
Are we truly limited by our genetic “destiny” and past environment?
Or do we still have room to change, transform, and become a completely different version of ourselves—even as we grow older?
Well, let’s dive in together....
I often hear complaints from friends around me.
Some say, “Well, I’ve always had a hard time speaking in public since I was little—maybe because my parents were quiet too.”
Others say, “I’m not artistically gifted; everyone on my dad’s side of the family is like that—they’re all about numbers.”
Have we ever felt that way? As if there were an invisible line limiting us, one that stems from the DNA we’ve carried since birth. As if we were the finished product of a genetic blueprint already written by our grandparents and great-grandparents.
Is that really true?
🈹DNA, Social Factor
I like to think of genes as a cookbook. It lists the ingredients and basic steps. But believe me, two people using the same recipe can produce very different dishes. It depends on the quality of the ingredients, the cook’s skill, and even the finishing touches they add.
Our genes do provide an initial “blueprint.” Research shows that certain traits—such as temperament, a tendency toward anxiety, or even an early interest in specific things—have a fairly strong genetic component.
For example, a study of identical twins separated at birth showed that they shared many similarities in personality and preferences, even though they were raised in completely different environments. This demonstrates that innate factors are indeed real.
But believe me, two people using the same recipe can produce very different dishes. It depends on the quality of the ingredients, the cook’s skill, and the finishing touches they add.
But wait a minute...
Does that mean we can’t change? Is it just a “given”? Like it or not, just accept it as it is?
Of course not! 🙂 Because there’s a magical mechanism in our bodies that makes everything more dynamic. It’s called epigenetics.
This term might sound complicated, but I’ll try to simplify it.
If genes are the “buttons” already installed on our circuit board, then epigenetics is the “finger” that presses or releases those buttons. Life experiences, diet, stress, happiness, and even our own thoughts can influence which buttons are active and which are inactive.
So, when a child inherits a “talent” for painting from his grandfather, that doesn’t mean he has to become a painter. It means he has a greater potential to appreciate colors and shapes. But if he grows up in an environment that doesn’t support the arts, or if he never tries it himself, that potential will remain dormant. Conversely, if they have the passion and enough practice, who knows—they might become a great painter, or even a successful architect or graphic designer.
In addition to our genetic heritage, we are also shaped by the “landscape” we encounter when we first open our eyes to the world. Where we are born, when we are born, and the socio-cultural conditions at that time—all of these shape the way we perceive and respond to reality.
A baby born in Yogyakarta in the 1970s will grow up surrounded by the sounds of gamelan, the aroma of wedang uwuh, and the use of krama inggil. Meanwhile, a baby born in Saudi Arabia in the same decade would grow up to the sound of the adhan and strong tribal values. And a baby in Africa, surrounded by a wealth of rituals and a close connection to the wild.
All of these are the “specific regional contexts” you mentioned earlier. This early environment is like the first canvas on which we begin to sketch out our lives. It gives us our first language, our first way of thinking, and our first tastes. It shapes our “normality.”
And this is where the role of “The Quite Pulse” becomes crucial. Because even though we are “children of our time” and “children of our culture,” there remains within us a space of consciousness capable of evaluating, sorting through, and choosing what is good for us and what is no longer relevant.
☯️Profession with Options
I recall the story of a friend who was born into a farming family in a village in Central Java. From a young age, he was raised to be a good farmer. But deep in his heart, there was a stirring that constantly drew him toward books and writing. He felt there was a major “flaw” within him because he didn’t fit in with his surroundings. Over time, he realized that this stirring wasn’t a flaw, but a calling. He began writing, and now he’s a respected journalist. His early environment gave him discipline and a connection to nature, but that inner pull led him down a different path.
So, yes, our early environment is an important foundation. But a foundation isn’t a prison wall. It’s a stepping stone for us to leap higher.
A soccer player in Spain. He’s great on the field, disciplined, and in top physical shape. Every day, he’s celebrated by the public. But in his room, there’s another inner calling that stirs him. A secret desire to press the piano keys and create beautiful melodies.
He knows that his ancestors might have been a painter or a mathematics professor. The “seeds” of their talents lie within him. But his path is soccer.
The question is: Will he remain a soccer player forever, with no chance of transforming into a skilled pianist in his later years? Science and the experiences of many people answer: Such a transformation is very possible. But there’s a condition. In psychology, there is a concept known as the theory of Deliberate Practice.
This theory, popularized by Anders Ericsson, shows that to achieve a high level of expertise in any field, thousands of hours of focused and deliberate practice are required. And this is where the role of “The Quite Pulse” becomes crucial. Because even though we are “children of our time” and “children of our culture,” there remains within us a space of consciousness capable of evaluating, sorting through, and choosing what is good for us and what is no longer relevant.
🔑 The key factors here are:
Strong Motivation: This is the main “fuel.” Without motivation, practice will feel like a burden. But if there is deep passion and love (what I call a strong “inner vibration”), then hours of practice will feel like play.
The Right Method: Not all practice is the same. We need a teacher, mentor, or good learning resource so we don’t take the wrong steps.
Consistency: This is the hardest part. Transforming yourself as an adult requires extra patience. Our brains are indeed more plastic (easier to change) when we’re children, but modern research shows that neuroplasticity—the brain’s ability to form new connections—continues throughout our lives.
So, will our soccer player become a virtuoso concert pianist like Vladimir Horowitz? Probably not. To reach that level, he would have had to start at age 3 and practice 8 hours a day. That’s incredibly competitive. But can he become a skilled pianist capable of beautifully performing works by Chopin or Debussy—and enjoying the music with all his heart?
Absolutely. In fact, his experience as a professional athlete—discipline, breath control, and fine motor coordination—will be an incredible asset in learning the piano.
🈴3 Steps Finding our Quite Pulse
Now that we understand we aren’t entirely constrained by our DNA 🧬 and past environment, what should we do? How can we capture these Quite Pulse and translate them into concrete action?
I’ll share three simple steps that I often discuss with other readers:
1. Pause for a Moment and Listen
Modern life turns us into machines. We wake up in the morning, immediately check our phones, then rush to the office, get caught up in work and social media, until we’re exhausted at night, and then go to sleep. The next day, the cycle repeats itself.🕙️
Amid all that busyness, our inner vibrations go unheard. They’re just a whisper, and because we’re too noisy, we don’t hear them.
✔️Try to set aside 5–10 minutes every day, free from distractions.
✔️Sit comfortably on the balcony, in the living room, or wherever.
✔️Close your eyes. Take a deep breath. And listen to what’s inside.
✔️Not to seek instant answers, but simply to observe.
❔️What makes you restless
❔️What do you long for
❔️What once filled you with passion, but may now be buried deep inside?
2. Recognize Patterns:
It’s Not a “Flaw,” It’s a “Pattern” We often get frustrated with our own traits.
😌“Ah, I’m too sensitive.”
☹️“Ah, I’m always in a rush.”
But try changing your perspective. Those traits might be inherited from your father or mother, and in certain situations, they can be strengths.
✔️Sensitive people are usually more attuned to others’ emotions, making them good listeners.
✔️People who are always in a hurry typically have a lot of energy and can be team drivers. Instead of fighting it, try to understand.
❔️Why do I react this way?
❔️What triggers me?
By understanding these patterns, we can manage our “genetic destiny” more wisely.
3. Take One Small Step
Major transformations begin with small steps. If you feel a pull toward music 🎶, don’t immediately think you have to buy an expensive piano 🎹 and take lessons from a maestro. Start by setting aside 15 minutes a day to listen to classical music 🎧️ , or try playing a piano app on your phone. If your inclination is toward writing, start by writing one paragraph📜 in a journal every night.
These small steps are tangible proof that you trust the inner calling within you. And from those small steps, slowly but surely, transformation will take place. Not because we’re forced by our environment or our DNA, but because we choose to listen and take action.
My dear friends,
The Quite Pulse is not a rigid destiny. It is more like a compass 🧭 . It points the way, but we are the ones who determine our own steps. It is the result of a dialogue between our “ancestral records” (DNA) 🧬 and our “territorial map” (environment), which we then read and reinterpret every day.
So, it’s never “too late” to change. It’s never “impossible” to try something new. Because in the end, we are not passive products of the past. We are artists repainting the canvas 🎨 of our lives, with a brush called awareness and a color called choice.
See you in the next issue, where we’ll delve deeper into how inner vibrations can be a source of strength amid life’s storms.
Stay warm, stay attuned to the vibrations within your heart.💖
Vibrant regards,
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